Yesterday, as I was walking to the library to return some books, I noticed a guy in a car, stopped at a red light. I wouldn’t have noticed him, except he was straining his neck trying to look at me. I wasn’t sure at first, why exactly he was looking at me. The look on his face seemed as if he had just spotted a cerulean unicorn or Michael Jackson. His eyes were as far out of their sockets as they could go. When he looked me up and down, eyes still enlarged, I felt uncomfortable and probably looked just as I felt. He drove away slowly, still straining his neck (his hand was holding it), as cars honked at him to hurry.
This is only one incident in a lifelong string of such incidents. I’ve had men openly stare for minutes at my backside, bump into objects while trying to keep me in their vision, and lick their lips while watching me pass. Which leads me to ask: Why do men feel so comfortable visibly ogling women on the streets?
This type of behavior is not flattering, in fact, it is very off-putting. I’m sure that I would never give a guy the time of day if he were to ask for my number after eyeing me like I was his first meal in years. I do not buy the idea “Boys will be boys!” Men seem to be doing it on purpose, and without regard.
Women can be very physically attracted to a person at first glance too. I know I can be. Yet, I rarely spot women ogling men as men tend to ogle (and sometimes verbally harass) women. I would never stare at a man so blatantly because I would consider it an intrusion of their person and personal space.
How do you feel about ogling, particularly men ogling women they do not know? Has it happened to you in the past?