Women dating men younger than themselves has always been somewhat of a taboo in societies around the globe. While men are permitted, if not encouraged, to seek younger women, women are taught to partner with men who match them in age or are older and well-established.
Some say that younger men are only interested in older women for sex or money; that they will move on once they get what they want. It’s also said that older women interested in younger men are simply looking for an ego boost and reconfirmation of their desirability.
Despite the views of others, there is some natural attraction of younger men to older women, and of older women to younger men. Men who regularly date older women cite reasons such as greater self-confidence, independence, and maturity as to what in particular attracts them. Some women say that open-mindedness and novelty are perks of being with a younger man. And as more prominent celebrity relationships feature the younger man/older woman dynamic, more so-called “May-December” relationships are forming and people are opening up to the idea.
As for me, age is nothing but a number — to an extent. I have not and would not think twice on finding out a man I’m interested in is a few years younger than me. As long as the man is sufficiently mature mentally, then his age isn’t very important. However, I don’t foresee myself ever seriously dating a man who is ten or more years younger (or older) than me. I believe that the different mindsets, life experience, and expectations caused by the age disparity would be a burden on the relationship that would prove too hard to overcome. Most of the men I have been involved with have been a few years older, and these relationships generally worked out well due to the slight similarity in age. But I would never say never.
What do you think of older women dating younger men? Do you know of any relationships involving a younger man and an older woman? Are you open to this sort of relationship?
- When Age Isn’t Just a Number: Older Men, Younger Women
- Something’s Gotta Give — movie involving age-gap relationships