It’s a new age and online dating is becoming more popular than ever. Around 30 percent of people who use the internet are looking to date. Most of these searchers at least land a date — over half of online daters went on a date with someone they met via the web, found one study. And almost 1 in every 5 online daters end up marrying someone they met online.
Most online daters say they had an easier time meeting someone online, but online dating comes with its own downsides. Although more and more people are going online to find love, online dating still has a certain stigma in the offline world. Some say they simply can’t date online due to the boundaries created by a virtual world. Whether the positives of online dating are enough to outweigh the negatives are for the individual to decide. Here are just some of the pros and cons of online dating:
- If you’re love shy, it’s easier to approach a person you’re interested in
Rejection is always an issue in dating. When you’re not face-to-face with a person, rejection is less hurtful. And approaching becomes much easier — just a click away.
- Greater freedom in choosing when and who to talk to
In online dating, you can respond at your convenience. You can choose who you want to talk to. There is less pressure.
- Easier to know if another is compatible based on shared interests
You can easily find out if a potential date has similar interests by asking, looking at their profile, or looking at pictures.
- Meeting people you otherwise would not; being able to meet people from around the world
The internet removes physical boundaries and connects people across distances. A person you might not otherwise have met due to location, you can easily talk to.
- More time to get to know each other outside of the physical; less pressure
Needless to say, dating online puts a greater emphasis on mental and emotional compatibility. You can get to know a person you might not have noticed in person.
- Meeting a greater amount of people in less time
Many potential daters gather in one place to meet, making online dating less time-consuming.
- Dating without leaving your home
Since you don’t have to leave home there is less worry about having to dress up, be on time, or leave familiar surroundings.
- Before your first meeting, you’re already familiar with your date
In the offline world, daters may still be getting to know basic information about each other on their first date. This is not the case with online dating — having already spoken on the web, you already know much about your date.
- The distance can become a barrier unless you meet early
Eventually, online dating has to go offline. Dating for long periods without meeting can put a damper on true intimacy and closeness.
- Professional online dating sites can be expensive
Some dating websites charge a hefty fee to use their services. If you don’t find a solid potential partner right away, you may end up paying more than you thought you would.
- Some online may misrepresent themselves and don’t turn out to be what they claimed
It’s easier to be someone you’re not online. Stories of an online date being completely different offline are not rare.
- It may be unsafe if you meet someone with bad intentions
Some use dating websites to look for people to use or abuse. Online stalkers are a potential problem.
- Pictures do not tell the whole story
A photo captures a person in one setting, at one time. There may be more to the person than you anticipated, in positive or negative ways.
- No contact in person means personality traits, body language, and mood are less clear
Without seeing the person, you can’t as accurately gauge their personality and demeanor. You also can’t react to their body language or mood, making getting along more difficult.
Have you tried dating online? Did you meet a significant other online? What were your experiences, positive and negative?