A Lofty Existence Must-Reads

One of the major downsides to blogs is that posts leave the homepage as new posts are added, so newer readers and visitors may not get a chance to view articles that they may like and find useful.  Everyone doesn’t have the time or energy to read through the archives.

Eliss of Integrated Memoirs was tagged in a blog meme where bloggers are asked to identify posts on their blogs of certain types  —  a blog superlative. Since this blog has a number of posts now, I decided I’d use the meme as a chance to share posts which you may or may not have read. I’m occasionally asked why I chose to write a certain post or why I write what I do in general, so I’ll also share my reasoning for writing each post which is featured here.

Any comments on a specific article can be written directly on the article’s comment section.

Most Beautiful Post:

Do You Ever Get Over a Past Love?

I’m assuming the word beautiful in this context refers to something emotionally moving or touching. Most of my posts aren’t of a very personal or emotional nature, but this is one of those so I’ll choose it for this category.

I didn’t plan to write this post, but thought I should. I wanted advice and feedback on a recurring situation. Much has changed since the post was written.

Most Popular Post:

At A Lofty Existence there appears to be two types of popular posts: one which is popular with search engines and/or social media, and one which is popular with regular readers and commenters. Few posts are popular across the board (although this seems to be changing). So I’m going to break this category into two.

• Most Popular Search Post: Bat for Lashes

This article has a thousand more views than it does comments — literally. Most of these viewers are searchers from outside of the United States, particularly from European countries. But it’s also been popular in social networking sites like Facebook (again, with Europeans).

I wrote this post because I am in love with Bat for Lashes and her music. I relate to them on a deep level.

• Most Popular Reader Post: Why Friends With Benefits Does Not Work

There is a tie for this category but the other post will be mentioned later.

“Friends With Benefits” sparked discussion on not just the title topic, but casual intimacy in general and the way men and women approach it. People love to talk about what’s done behind closed doors.

This was just an idea I’d had one day, after studying the friends with benefits dynamic.

Most Helpful Post:

Relationship Attachment: The Attachment Styles in Love

Whether you’re single, dating, or in a committed relationship, understanding attachment styles, including your own, should be extremely helpful. You’ll better understand your relationship needs and style of relating.

I wrote this while I was learning about relationship attachment science and thought it would be helpful to others, especially those who do not have a secure style.

Post Whose Success Surprised Me:

Top Ten Signs Your Partner is Avoidant

This article is popular with searchers and has been shared several times. It’s also featured on eHow.com and has been a primary source for offers to guest post. Who knew so many people had trouble with avoidant partners (and knew about attachment science)?

This is a sister post of “Relationship Attachment” and delves deeper into the mindset and behavior of an avoidant partner.

Most Controversial Post:

A Man’s View on Casual Sex and the One-Night Stand

This is actually a guest post by blogger and writer Zek J Evets. It seems to be infamous because it discusses the issue of men and casual relationships (always a controversial topic), and presents a slightly different view on the  dynamic.

I published this post because I thought it could be informative and create even more discussion about a much-discussed topic.

This is tied with “Friends With Benefits” for Most Popular Reader Post.

Post That Didn’t Get The Attention I Felt It Deserved:

White Men Don’t Like Black Women? Says Who?

This post actually did get a lot of attention (and could qualify as most controversial post), but not until later, and not in the form of comments. It suffered from being posted in the first few months of the blog when there weren’t as many readers. And it’s a little taboo — some people are afraid to discuss the points raised.

I wrote this to explain a phenomenon I’d and others had noticed, but didn’t understand the roots of.

Post I’m Most Proud Of:

I’m proud of all of my posts — they each present topics I think are helpful, informative, or entertaining. But here are a few personal favorites:

Jill Scott is a Bigot or How to Misunderstand Racism

Sheds some light on an issue that’s often misunderstood. Great discussion.

Introverted: Understanding Introverts

Because I’m an introvert (and so are you, most likely). Clears up some common misconceptions about introverts.

PUA is Pathetic and The Day I Was a Target

The number of men who land on this post while searching for information on PUA makes it that much more great. And the number who leave (mostly unpublished) disapproving comments makes it even better.

Why Women Are Competitive

Another article on a widely discussed, but largely misunderstood phenomenon — female competition.

What are your favorites? Add any favorites or comments on the post below.