7 Types of Men I’d Never Date

do-not-pass-goMost people have a “type” — a particular look or personality that they find appealing in others. I’m the same — I also have types, but what I have more of are non-types — those that I do not find appealing or even repelling.

These types coincide with general personality traits I find disagree with my own, but in romantic relationships they take on an even greater importance. At a distance you can pretend everything’s fine, but in close quarters, you can only pretend for so long. Perhaps this should be titled “7 Types of Men I’d Never Date (Again)”:

The Argumenter — The Argumenter is that great debater you found so attractive at first. Just so informed, intellectual, and worldly, isn’t he? He’d never lose an argument…Including one with you, and he spares no words.

Also known as Mr. Know-It-All.

The Passive — Easy enough to get along with, begin a relationship, and deal with in a relationship. You’ll think the fact that you never disagree with the passive guy means you’re meant for each other. What it really means is that the disagreement will happen later, perhaps much later, when the Passive Guy grows tired of pretending he agrees with everything you do and say.

Not for the straightforward.

Bob Bummer — In a word, negative. This guy isn’t usually the most attractive, but can find himself in relationships with women who think they can make his life a little brighter with their presence. What actually happens is Bob Bummer makes your day a little gloomier by killing any excitement or happiness you feel by bringing in thoughts of doubt and urging you to think of the”worst case scenario”.

Of course if your name should be changed to Debbie Downer, you’ll find Bob Bummer to be perfect.

The Player — We all know of the Player. He says all the right things at all the right times, and he can do no wrong. Except he’s say all the right things with every woman he’s ever dated. And just when she’s convinced he can do no wrong he finds someone else to say all the right things with.

Don’t hate the player..

RomeoNot exactly a Player because unlike the Player Romeo actually feels as strongly about you as you do about him. That is, he thinks he does. But Romeo loves romance more than any particular person, and when the sparkle and glitter are gone, so is Romeo.

There isn’t much else to know about Romeo because he usually doesn’t stick around long enough.

The King of the Throne/Breadwinner — Lovely, if you like being the equivalent of a nice-looking suit or enjoy being told what to do, say, and think. He is convinced a man should be a “man” in a relationship. The King of the Throne makes the rules, even if his throne consists of an armchair.

Often extremely judgmental, as an added bonus.

The IntellectualizerIf you have emotions, and would like to express them, then look for another partner. Some Intellectualizers just don’t get emotions, theirs included, but others actively ignore or belittle them. To the extreme Intellectualizer emotions are just irrelevant. The only upside is that if you ever have a problem to solve, they can fix it.

It’s hard to decide if the Intellectualizer is the least problematic of the types, or the most.

Which of these types have you dated and which do you find the most and least appealing?

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16 thoughts on “7 Types of Men I’d Never Date

  1. We should have a thread for the men to say what sort of women they would never date again, but there would probably be more than seven types.

  2. billy,

    Lol, I could have more than seven types, but I started using the numbers 7 and 10 and I like consistency. 😛

    I think a thread like that would be interesting indeed… Well, any man who reads this post and has his own list is welcome to add it here in the comments. 🙂

  3. 1. bossy women with hidden agendas
    2. doormats who let you walk all over them
    3. bottle blondes who call me darling all the time and trowel on the slap.
    4. Avoidant women
    5. clingy needy women
    6. women who pretend to enjoy sex but really aren’t that interested (we can tell when you fake it)
    7. women who won’t give a BJ.
    8.cheats
    9.liars
    10. women too lazy to earn their own living and want to be looked after.

  4. Eh… It’s easy to say “I’d never…” Personally, I was never smart enough to consciously avoid these mistakes.

    I guess the number 1 thing I hate are the cheaters, players, you get the idea. It’s so disgusting beyond words.

    I also hate patriarchal, “do as I say because I am a MAN” sort of guys.

    Also, Nice Guy TM. This type likes to be “friends” only with girls he’s attracted to. Then he’ll whine about being friend-zoned but he’s the first one to completely ignore the existence of women he’s not attracted to.

    Plus, PUA, of course. But they are a pathetic category on itself. I say PUA are Nice Guy TM who want to be players, so they have two bad qualities together.

  5. billy,

    And these are all types rather than annoying traits that some women exhibit? Hmmm… 😛

    “4. Avoidant women
    5. clingy needy women”

    You just can’t be pleased, huh? Lol.

  6. Mira,

    “Eh… It’s easy to say “I’d never…” Personally, I was never smart enough to consciously avoid these mistakes.”

    Once you’ve dated one, you wise up.

    “I also hate patriarchal, “do as I say because I am a MAN” sort of guys.”

    I think these are the Kings of the Hill.

    “Also, Nice Guy TM. This type likes to be “friends” only with girls he’s attracted to. Then he’ll whine about being friend-zoned but he’s the first one to completely ignore the existence of women he’s not attracted to.”

    Yes. But everyone avoids dating the Nice Guy anyway, so it seemed kind of redundant to mention him. 😀

    “Plus, PUA, of course. But they are a pathetic category on itself. I say PUA are Nice Guy TM who want to be players, so they have two bad qualities together.”

    Yes, they are: good way to describe them. This is why they have had their own posts, and will have more in the future…

  7. 1. bossy women with hidden agendas

    Huh?

    7. women who won’t give a BJ.

    Yawn. There are men out there who won’t give women oral sex but expect it from women.

    10. women too lazy to earn their own living and want to be looked after.

    So you’ll date a career driven woman who’s independent and able to hold her own?

    What you described, a lot of men have these same traits.

  8. Hi Omerta,

    So many guys! So many wonderful guys. I profiled a few them, like the Geeky Guy and the Shy Guy — love! You can check the Men’s category for types of men I like/features I find attractive in men.

  9. So basically what you’re talking about is what Neecy would call a “monkey in the middle” guy. Ask her about it.

    I can agree w/most of your list, except for the “King of the throne” part. I’ll agree with you in the dating stages, but in a LTR/marriage, I believe the man should be “the man”. Of course, it all comes down to what woman you’re in a LTR/marriage with. I believe she should be a strong, smart woman who you respect, a woman who, if her opinion on something differs from yours, you take it into consideration because you respect her opinion. I can’t imagine getting into a LTR w/a woman I don’t respect.

    And what’s up w/your avatar? Are you a singer, or do you just make strained faces when you listen to music thru headphones? 😉

    Nice little blog, BTW. I’ll be checkin’ it out.

  10. I would never date a man whose balls are smaller than mine, ie, I have to stroke his oversized ego because he’s lacking in something I find should develop (naturally) as an adult achiever: self confidence.

  11. …oh, NOT to be mixed up with that horrid swagger. Not into such men who think their penises are the end all and be all of a relationship. I’m thinking: Bill Gates types. Now for me, that’s a man who DEFINITELY has bigger (and better) balls than I!. Yum!

  12. Sorry Alee, for MIA sometimes. It’s generally the same ole tech problems. I tried commenting numerous times, but wordpress sent me a msg fail because I’m using work computer during the day. Now we’ve migrated today and our server’s a lot faster. …..

    @ Billy: Your list reminds me of when men say they would love a woman to chase them and when we do, they can never “rise” to the occasion. Very few men like independent women, but I do agree they love getting BJs, but NOT reciprocating. Perhaps you can expound on that?.

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