A Look Into the Mind of a Woman

daily-life-of-womanNote: This is a (mostly) satirical post

Adam, Eve. Regis, Kelly. Men, women. There are many similarities between the two, yet many differences. Members of both genders complain that the other is hard to understand or get along with. This could be a legitimate complaint and that’s why here I present a quick and fun guide for men to the opposite gender, women. These ideas are reflective of the thoughts, behavior, and attitudes of some women, not necessarily all.

-It’s not PMS. It’s you

Before you conclude that a woman who is irritable or cranky must be having premenstrual symptoms, check to see if you’re not the cause of her less-than-happy attitude.

-Your looks do count

You may have all the confidence and money, but never get the idea that your appearance doesn’t matter. Looks do count, to a greater or lesser extent, to all women. The theory that women are not visual is simply not true. Now go put on a nice suit!

-Men and women are still not equal

No, despite all the gains that have been made in gender equality, men still have advantages over women in many areas of life. Don’t act so surprised and quit complaining about affirmative action for women.

-Marriage isn’t just a formality

Wondering why women see marriage as the goal of relationships? It’s because marriage has real benefits, both tangible and intangible. marriage is symbolic of a true desire for commitment and devotion to another person. So that idea you had about living together in perfectly unwedded bliss? Time to find a better idea.

-Women dressing up is not about men

In case you thought that women were wearing those stiletto heels and perfect make-up just to impress you, think again. Women dress to impress themselves, and other women.

-Pick-up lines are more than annoying

Being approached day after day with the same cheesy, generic pick-up lines can be tiresome. An honest, but confident approach would be appreciated, but ultimately who a man is, determines whether a woman will reciprocate interest or not.

-A little caring goes a long way

It’s been said before, but showing you are genuinely interested in a woman and her life and interests can go a long way, whether you’re male or female. Everyone likes to feel appreciated.

-Every woman is unique

I know — this is a guide about how women think, right? Yes, but although women have some general characteristics in common, all women are different. Any attempts to put all women in one box will fail because each women comes with her own quirks, interests, and bothers. All just for you.

Now, those are my thoughts. Any women reading have anything they’d like to add to this list? This could become a never-ending guide for the other half of our species.

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17 thoughts on “A Look Into the Mind of a Woman

  1. And if you think ordinary women are cranky try a relationship with an AVOIDANT.

  2. That was a nice touch going from Adam and Eve to Regis and Kelly. Quite witty I’d say.

  3. billy,

    “And if you think ordinary women are cranky try a relationship with an AVOIDANT.”

    Are they cranky? I would think they would be more level-headed and unaffected by things. But that may just be my bias.

  4. The theory that women are not visual is simply not true.

    Yes! Thank you for this!

    Maybe you can do a whole post about this misconception? We hear it all the time but I have no idea where it comes from.

    One thing I’d add to the list, and I don’t mean it in a tongue in cheek way: respect. Respect is important. Respect is more important than attraction. What I mean is that many men can be attracted to a woman, impressed by her looks & her, AND they can even say they are in love – but all of this without having respect for her as a human being.

    I think a lot of it comes from a belief that women should be worshiped, admired and treated like some kind of adorable, but ultimately foreign beings. This sort of sentiment makes certain men like women the way they like paintings or other beautiful things. Not as human beings. So there can be admiration and certain feelings, but not true respect.

    So… Respect is important. True love always comes with this respect, and it can’t exist without it.

  5. Mira, hi, I haven’t seen you here in some time!

    “Maybe you can do a whole post about this misconception?”

    I thought I did? Well we had Are Men More Visual than Women? which is a similar topic.

    “One thing I’d add to the list, and I don’t mean it in a tongue in cheek way: respect. Respect is important.”

    Good one!

    You’re right — respect is highly important. Attraction, appreciation, admiration are all nice, but flimsy and superficial. It’s important to respect a woman for who she is, not just her beauty or ability to dazzle.

  6. I’m busy! Preparing a research/field work for my Master’s studies.

    I thought I did? Well we had Are Men More Visual than Women? which is a similar topic.

    Right! Oh, silly me. I totally forgot about that one.

    Yes… I’m not going to lie, being admired is good. Or when someone finds you pretty and attractive. But at the end of the day, it means nothing without respect.

    And it’s sad to know there are MANY (not all but definitely a large percentage) of men who can admire a woman or even claim to have feelings for her, without actually respecting her as a human being.

  7. Mira,

    “it’s sad to know there are MANY (not all but definitely a large percentage) of men who can admire a woman or even claim to have feelings for her, without actually respecting her as a human being.”

    I won’t say there aren’t any woman who think similarly ( 😉 ), but I do agree it seems more common among men.

  8. “Your looks do count”

    How can we get more men to understand this?!

    I have had unpleasant experiences of being pursued by men whom I did not find attractive.
    Those men had a hard time understanding that I was not interested because I was not attracted to them. Many men really do believe that women are not visual and that gifts and sweet words are enough to woo any woman. Why does a man feel that he has a right to demand that a woman explain why she does not want him?

    I particularly dislike men who have bad skin but clearly feel that they don’t need to do anything about it. And interestingly enough, less unattractive men are usually the most aggressive in their pursuit of women and seem to get more offended by rejection.

    Women have often been forced to put physical appearance at the bottom of their list in preference for a man who can be a good provider. That is about survival. The fact that many financially secure older women go after handsome, younger men is proof that women are visual.

  9. Ann, you wrote that…

    “The fact that many financially secure older women go after handsome, younger men is proof that women are visual.”

    You’re most likely aware of this, but I felt that I should bring this up.

    Correlation does not always equate to causation.

    But yes, you’re probably right.

  10. Alee,

    “I won’t say there aren’t any woman who think similarly ( ), but I do agree it seems more common among men.”

    I disagree. All humans have the same propensity to suck.

  11. Mira, good luck on your research/field work. I’m sure its going to be very interesting!

  12. Alee: “Correlation does not always equate to causation.”

    True. But we are not dealing with science here : – ) .
    Just a conclusion based on observation and experience.

    There are people who accept the idea that women are not visual as a scientific (biological) fact.
    Which makes no sense.

    When I was in grade school, the girls would admire and have crushes on the “cute” guys. Of course beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but there were always a small number of guys that got a disproportionate amount of female attention and who many people would rate as handsome.

    So what happens between that time and the age when many women begin to contemplate marriage? Was there a major change in the brain biology of girls that made them blind to the physical appearance of men? I don’t think so. I think women get faced with the realities of life and then financial security trumps looks. Even in our western society, men still hold most of the wealth and power and a typical woman cannot ignore that fact. And the handsome men are not necessarily the most financially successful, unless they are actors or models.

    A financially independent woman is free to make choices in the way that most women can’t. And that is why I use them as an example. I read an article a few years ago about successful women and dating. Physical appearance (of the partner) was at the top of the list for most of them. I think lower income women looking for partners would most likely not place looks at the top of the list. They can’t afford to. And there are lots of older women who are attracted to younger men but don’t reveal it. If a 50 year old man can appreciate the beauty of a 20 year old woman, then I don’t see why a 50 year old woman cannot appreciate the beauty of a 20 year old man. The older woman may not be able to act on her attraction, but that does not mean it isn’t there.

  13. Ann,

    You’re quite right. In elementary, middle, and high schools all the girls liked the same guys — the hot ones! Lol.

    I think it comes down to what men and women are taught to value in a partner. Men are taught that a beautiful woman is the ultimate gift; something that they should strive to have, something rare to be cherished. Women are taught that a man who loves them and is successful is the ultimate gift.

    Of course nature always intervenes and women still care about looks.

  14. Ann,

    “There are people who accept the idea that women are not visual as a scientific (biological) fact.
    Which makes no sense.”

    This makes perfect sense when you take into account the fact that there are plenty of stupid and narrow minded idiots.

  15. Alee,

    “There are people who accept the idea that women are not visual as a scientific (biological) fact.
    Which makes no sense.”

    Now this point was made half in jest.

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