Open Letter to Kanye West: It’s Over


Dear Kanye,

There comes a time in every woman’s life when she must admit that her dreams will never be realized. That time has come in my life with my hopes for you.

Since before most people had ever even heard of a name like “Kanye”,  I supported you. I just knew you were going to be a huge star and had talent beyond measure. I delved into the world of Kanye, learning all about this unique, charmingly irresistible individual. For years, I lived and breathed Kanye West.

Despite some bumps along the road, I never once doubted that you were a sincere and kind person. When others accused you of arrogance, I was assured that you were simply confident, yet not overly so. When others were annoyed by your temper tantrums and outbursts, I thought “how passionate and human.”

So when tragedy struck  — your mother passed, I knew it would be hard for you. You were so close to your mother; she was your best friend and greatest supporter. So when you began to act out of character, quite unlike the Kanye I’d known and loved, I excused it. Everyone deals with grief in their own way.  I hoped and wished you’d get better in time.

But you didn’t.

And it seems you never will — You are solidly the new Kanye. The new Kanye that is all about money, image, clothes, and women. The new Kanye who sells $6,000 shoes and is associated with a new woman every week. The new Kanye who thinks it’s perfectly okay to trash talk ex-girlfriends and bring them to tears.

And if that’s who you have decided you want to be, I have to accept that. I can no longer wish, dream, and hope that some day you will come to your senses and start making music that matters, start doing things that matter.  So, I’ll just have to give up my “Kanye’s #1 Fan” cap. There is no longer the Kanye I adored. It’s like you passed away.

I’ll always remember you though — the old you. I’ll still listen to your old music and reminisce, remembering the times when Kanye West was more than just another made for TV rapper.  It may take some time for my knee jerk reaction to defend you to subside to defend you. But it will in time, because all I have now are memories… It’s over.

Solemnly signed,


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Whitney Houston – All at Once & Didn’t We Almost Have It All

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Whitney Houston, one of the greatest singers of all time, passed away on February 11, 2012. Normally I’d stay away from clichéd celebrity farewells, because few celebrities have such a great impact. But this is different.

Whitney’s death is immensely saddening to the world and her fans, and especially to me. Whitney’s music was so important to me, a part of me. Her music cheered me, made me laugh, reassured me, motivated me, invigorated my soul. If only I knew I’d be saying goodbye to Whitney so soon.

So today there will be two videos in memory of Whitney Houston and the amazing legacy she’s left. The lyrics (especially the bolded below) that I listened to so often are eerie and depressing now. R.I.P. Whitney, you were truly a blessing. We’ll always love you; I’ll always love you.


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Top Ten Most Missed Celebrities

2012 is a new year with new beginnings. But the past, and the people who helped create it, can hardly be forgotten. Among these are some public figures who entertained and inspired us in years past, and will continue to influence despite not being physically present.

Here is my personal list of the most cherished celebrities and public figures who passed away in the last ten years. They will be most missed in 2012, and beyond.


1. Amy Winehouse (1983-2011)

A multi-talented musician, singer, and songwriter Amy Winehouse rose to fame in the UK in the early 2000s and in the world with her albums Frank and Back to Black. She was known for her sultry voice and creative oldies-inspired musical style.

Amy passed in the summer of 2011 of after struggling with alcohol and drug addiction.


2. Aaliyah (1979-2001)

Aaliyah Haughton was an R&B singer and dancer popular in the ’90s and early 2000s. Her hip-hop influenced music and dance videos captured the hearts of audiences who grew to love her unique personal style and genuinely sweet personality.

Aaliyah and eight others died after their plane crashed while leaving the Bahamas. They were returning to the United States after shooting the music video for “Rock the Boat”.


3. Michael Jackson (1958-2009)

The most successful music artist of all time, King of Pop Michael Jackson was not just a musician but an icon. He is known globally as a transformative figure — his talent and style inspired and created generations of music, and people.

Michael died in 2009 of medication-induced respiratory arrest. His death caused shock and grief worldwide.


4.  Lisa “Left Eye” Lopes (1971-2002)

Lisa Lopes, also known as Left Eye, was a rapper and singer best known as a member of the R&B trio TLC. Her unique and honest rapping added the hip-hop element to TLC which contributed greatly to its success.

Lisa died in April 2002 when her car swerved off a road in Honduras.


5. Paul Newman (1925-2008)

Paul Newman was an actor and heartthrob popular in the ’60s through the ’80s. He is known for films such as Cat on a Hot Tin Roof and The Color of Money, as well as his cool personality and ice blue eyes.

Paul passed away in 2008 at age 83, after a long history in show business as an actor and director.

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Aaliyah – Don’t Know What To Tell Ya

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Today (August 25th) is the 10th anniversary of the death of R&B singer Aaliyah, who died in a plane crash off the Bahamas at the young age of 22. Aaliyah is remembered for her unique personal style and innovative music videos.

In honor of her death, here is “Don’t Know What to Tell Ya”, with an intro from rapper DMX. The single is from the album I Care 4 U, which was released after she died. This is one of my favorite Aaliyah songs.


You wanna handcuff me
But yo I don’t know what to tell ya (don’t know what to tell ya)
You want my intimacy
But yo I don’t know what to tell ya (don’t know what to tell ya)
You wanna wall around me
I swear I don’t know what to tell ya (don’t know what to tell ya)
You want my lock and my key
But yo I don’t know what to tell ya (don’t know what to tell ya)

Incarceration what I’m facin’
When I’m with you
You’re watchin’ my every move
Tryin’ to pick up on some clues
We play twenty questions
Every time I walk in or out the door
What do you bother for (what do you bother for)
Get comfortable with yours

It’s gonna take T-R-U-S-T to keep my L-O-V-E
It’s gonna take T-R-U-S-T to keep my L-O-V-E
Cracking, stressing, and second guessing me
Time and time again
We go from lovers back to friends
Got to put this to an end

You wanna handcuff me
But yo I don’t know what to tell ya (don’t know what to tell ya)
You want my intimacy
But yo I don’t know what to tell ya (don’t know what to tell ya)
You wanna wall around me
I swear I don’t know what to tell ya (don’t know what to tell ya)
You want my lock and my key
But yo I don’t know what to tell ya (don’t know what to tell ya)

No justification for your actions
Should have been somewhere relaxing
Don’t compare me to your last one
I can’t help it she was a fast one
A sassy one, I’m a classy one
I can’t keep them from getting at me hun
Seems like that should make you happy hun

It’s gonna take T-R-U-S-T to keep my L-O-V-E
It’s gonna take T-R-U-S-T to keep my L-O-V-E
Cracking, I can’t deny it why I try to put up with you
These insecurities everyday
Pushing my love away, hey

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5 Love Lessons to Learn from Elizabeth Taylor


Elizabeth Taylor (1932-2011) was an American actress known not only for her films, but as a symbol of classic Hollywood glamour. She was also famous for her love of love: Elizabeth married seven men, eight times, besides her many engagements and romances.

Some may call Elizabeth’s love life a whirlwind of drama, secrecy, and restlessness, fit only for a soap opera or romance novel. But as stormy as they were, there are vital love lessons to be learned from Elizabeth Taylor’s many failed relationships.

1. Take your time

Elizabeth first married when she was 18 years old, after having been previously engaged to another man. But beyond her age at the time, Elizabeth was not mentally or emotionally ready for marriage and barely knew her fiancé. She met, engaged, and married her first husband, Conrad Hilton, in less than a year. Both were abusive towards each other and the relationship was shaky from the beginning. As a result, she filed for divorce almost as soon as their honeymoon was over.

Never rush love, and especially commitment. Get to know your partner, and yourself, first.

2. Never act when vulnerable

After the death of her third husband, Michael Todd, Elizabeth became involved with his best friend, Eddie Fisher. Eddie consoled her in her time of grieving. She soon married the already married man, breaking up his marriage. But again, Elizabeth acted too quickly: as soon as she met Richard Burton on the set of their film Cleopatra, she began an affair with him and her marriage Eddie was left behind.

Don’t make commitments in love while going through a hard time. You’re more likely to change your mind later, so save yourself and any potential partners the trouble.

elizabeth-taylor-paul-newman3. A steady relationship can be a good thing

Elizabeth’s first and second marriage to Richard Burton was legendarily abusive, so much so that they were nicknamed “The Battling Burtons”. While their relationship was exciting and dangerously romantic, it lacked a solid base to hold it together. They divorced and remarried, only to divorce again.

Passion and lust may begin a relationship, but a real foundation is what keeps it going over the long run. It’s not all about the chase.

4. Sometimes it just can’t work

Elizabeth and Richard divorced and remarried the next year. Although their relationship was unstable, they couldn’t see that they weren’t meant to be together. That is, until a year after their remarriage, when they divorced again.

You may love a person and they may love you, but if they are not right for you, you can’t force the relationship to work.

5. Always believe

Despite her many unsuccessful relationships, Elizabeth still believed in love. She entered every relationship as if it were her first, always believing that this one would be the last. She loved with all her heart, and even when she broke up with a lover, continued to love them. After her eighth marriage, she never married again, but never gave up on relationships entirely.

Love can be difficult sometimes, but there is hope if you simply believe in it. Even if you fail many times, who is to say that your lucky one isn’t soon to come, or that the experience of loving wasn’t worth it?