Are you addicted to love?
The love junkie is quite simply, hooked on love and romance. Whereas some people fall in love with individuals and the experience of being with them, love junkies are primarily in love with love. The love junkie’s life revolves around love, romance, and relationships and even when not in a relationship, relationships and love remain their priority and primary mental focus.
The truth is, the love junkie does not feel truly complete without love and romance, although they may not recognize this fact. Many believe that a full life can’t be lived without a partner. So the love junkie will often be found in a relationship, and will not end one unless they have no other option, or another potential partner is available. Which is a significant point to note about the love junkie — what’s most important is that they have a partner, not so much anything specific about that person.
Love junkies differ from other romance addicts in one major way: they actually care about their partners. Although their mate can be seen in a way as a means to the end of obtaining love, the love junkie does love them and is usually in love with them. But they could have just as easily been in love with someone else.
None of this is to say that love junkies are insincere or “bad” people. Not at all. Everyone has their motivation in life — what drives them and makes living worthwhile. The love junkie’s motivation just happens to be love and relationships. They can’t be faulted for that, although it’s important to be able to recognize a love junkie. Some of their more clear traits and behaviors include:
- A tendency to gain strong feelings for anyone new they are involved with or the potential to be involved with. Oftentimes they will feel that they are in love, after a relatively short amount of time.
- Idealizing their partner and ignoring the faults of partners (or potential partners).
- Daydreaming about their partner when not together and considering time with their partner to be far and away the highlight of their day, if not their life.
- A strong dislike for being without a relationship and a clear renewal of happiness when in a new relationship.
- A love of romantic stories, movies, and songs which highlight the passionate feelings of love.
- Tendency towards jealousy, though they try to hide it.
- May enter into a relationship simply to be in one, even if the relationship does not satisfy their needs.
- Willingness to suffer strongly or ignore their needs to keep a relationship.
- Thinking and claiming that every partner they become involved with is “the one” or “perfect” for them.
- When their love life isn’t going well, their life isn’t going well — their satisfaction with being depends on the state of their relationships
Love junkies will have many of these traits in varying degrees, though they may not have all. Having one or two of these tendencies doesn’t make you a love junkie but if you find yourself agreeing with many of the points, you might just be a love junkie. In fact, if you’re reading this, you probably are one or know one.
How many points do you check off? Are you a love junkie?