When it comes to race and dating, I have always emphatically stated that I do not have a preference. I could not have one even if I tried — I love men, in all their forms. The only preference I seem to have is for taller men (6 ft 2 in/188 cm or taller), but even so, most of the men I’ve dated have been shorter than that. Yet I am asked from time to time if I have a preference, usually in the form of a question such as “So, you’re into white men?” or “Why don’t you like black men?” I sometimes wonder myself if my relationship has changed my preferences, i.e. created a preference.
Since I’ve been in my current relationship I’ve realized I notice white men more. If I enter a room and there are (attractive) men of all ethnicities, I will tend to look first at the white men, then everyone else. This has not always been the case, and I believe it has to do with my relationship and the familiarity of it. Since I’m in a relationship with a white man, I’ve become more accustomed to the looks of white men, so I notice a good-looking white man before I notice an attractive black man, Asian man, or mixed Hispanic man. I’ve always believed this is where preference starts — familiarity, whether through environment, media, or other outlets.
Still, I would not say I have a preference, at least not in the way that most people seem to refer to preference — an attraction to certain type(s) to the near exclusion of others. I am still attracted to other men, and I don’t think white men are inherently more attractive, I just notice them before others. When others claim to have a “preference” I am wary because it usually does not mean that they actually prefer a certain type of individual, but that they are pretty much only interested in those types. Which makes their attractions not preferences, but requirements.
Do you have a racial preference? What do you think of racial preferences, in general?