How does your birth order affect your personality?
For decades, research has been done into the effects that birth order has on personality, as well as life goals and accomplishments. Birth order theory was first presented by Alfred Adler, a psychotherapist and physician. While some researchers disagree on the degree of the effects that birth order has on personality, the consensus is that a person’s personality is influenced by when they were born in their family. Among other factors, birth order sets the foundation on which personality is built.
The First Child
The first child is the natural-born leader. Most politicians, directors, entrepeneurs and others called on to manage others are first born. Because they usually get the most attention from their parents and younger siblings look toward them as examples, first-born children tend to be confident and perfectionist.
The basic traits of the first born can appear in two manners: nurturing and compliant, or aggressive and directive. Either way the first born is fulfilling the reliable leader.
The middle child tends to be the opposite of the first child. If the first child is known as the science kid, the middle child will be the artsy one. If the middle child is also the second child, they can be competitive and rebellious. They long to best their older sibling and stand out from the crowd.
Some middle children always feel literally stuck in the middle, and their personality traits change depending on their surroundings. They are thought to be the most diplomatic, with better social skills than others.
The Third/Last Child
The third or last child is an individualist and idealist. Since their parents have less expectations for their role in the family, the last child is given more freedom to make their own, unique mark on the world. Because they are the baby they tend to be less mature than others, and more sensitive.
Last borns can be outgoing and sociable, or withdrawn and secretive. But both types show the basic personality of individualism and creativity.
The Only Child
People who were the only child vary in their personas. Because they have no siblings, much depends on the parenting style they received. They can appear as any of the other birth orders, but they are often like the first child in that tend to be attention-seeking and are more mature.
Only children are often precocious and are thought to be intelligent. They score well on academic-oriented tests and show great motivation in school. They are generally less diplomatic and less open to new ideas.
Those who are are twins or part of other multiple births can appear like any of the other birth orders. One may take on the personality of a first born, others may behave like a last born. Much also depends on the parenting style and the roles assigned or implied by their parents.
What is your birth order? How do you think your birth order affects your personality?